Every coach is different. My training, experience and personality all influence how I work. This page clarifies what you can expect, and offers guidelines on how to make the most of this partnership.
• To create a judgment-free, confidential, curious space, where you can bring anything of yourself to the table.
• To ask questions that can result in new ways of thinking to unlock fresh perspectives and alternative approaches.
• To offer practices and insights for you to implement between sessions.
• To ask you to do more than you have probably done on your own.
• To help you focus better, so you can get results more quickly.
• To provide a relationship where you can discover new depths of insight about yourself, your world and your choices.
• To keep the sessions’ focus on the vision that you have set for yourself.
• Take full ownership of your learning process.
• Commit to the process, and implement the changes that coaching brings.
• Remain open, honest, curious and accountable to self and, by extension, to the coach.
• Remain aware of the fact that adult learning is a process, it involves change, and will potentially lead you in directions you didn’t initially anticipate: sometimes this may lead you out of your comfort zone.
• Provide honest, clear constructive feedback to the coach at the completion of the programme.
Counselling or therapy tends to focus on the past, and looks at issues historically. There’s also a tendency to help someone move from a place of un-health, back to health.
Consulting primarily involves an expert-opinion, that comes up with answers or solutions to certain problems / obstacles. It tends to be externally focused. Medical consultations work on the same premise, offering an expert opinion, diagnosis, treatment and/or cure of illness.
Coaching uses insights and techniques derived from psychology, integral coaching, embodied intelligence and even medicine.
The aim is to facilitate integration of emotions, physical, mental and relationship spheres.
The emphasis is on the present and future. Where counselling and medical consults tend to help someone from “un-health” to “health”, coaching tends to focus growth into optimal health and wellbeing.The coaching relationship is also more of a partnership than a consultation or counselling relationship. The “answers” that you are looking for, often come about through reflection, internal practice, cultivating awareness, asking good questions, and learning to dial into your own inner knowledge. It is framed around your expressed vision, goals, interests and objectives, not that of the coach.
As your coach, I will ask questions, encourage, challenge, make requests and listen. I offer a unique perspective, and will encourage choices that are consistent with who you are, and how you want to grow.
My focus will be on YOU: what you want and how you can best get it. However, the coaching relationship is designed by both of us and may be refined by each of us in the giving and receiving of feedback. Although I am committed to the process, it remains your responsibility to take action (or not take action) as you desire. I commit to create a space free of judgment, where you can bring absolutely anything to the table.
The best results are achieved when you are ready to both do and be the best versions of ourselves. If there is a sense in which I feel you may not be allowing yourself to push into your edges, I might bring that into your awareness so we can work out what you really want to do.
As the need arises, I will make direct requests such as, “Could you see yourself accomplishing X within the next two weeks”? You could meet the request (“Yes, I can do that”), provide an alternative option (“I can’t do X, but I can do Y”) or perhaps you might decline altogether (which rarely happens). Whichever way you respond, though, I will support your action.
If, for example, I hear hesitancy in your voice or notice an inconsistency, I will generally ask you about it. Often, it is these moments that permit the opportunity to resolve something.
Typically, I ask you to work on perhaps two or three tasks between our sessions together. If I am pushing you too hard, then it is important for you to say so. If you want to be pushed harder, it is also important for you to say so.
On occasion, if I have a real sense of a particular direction, and you are open to it, I may make specific suggestions, or offer some insights. These moments will be infrequent, and often in support of the coaching. In coaching, there is a belief that you are likely to know your own answer, before looking for answers elsewhere.
You can maximize the value of your coaching experience, as well as the time in between, by following the following guidelines:
Coaching works best when you have clear goals or at least a clear vision of what you really want to achieve.
Firstly, consider what you most long for in work, life and relationships.
Secondly, identify the gaps between the way things are now and how you would like them to be. It is true that many people struggle with this, but the coaching relationship can help you work this through if necessary.
Working with an integral coach is a definite way to grow and develop. The reaching of your goals is a consequence of your own development.
Important, lasting changes happen from within. You’re bound to discover something more about yourself.
Part of my responsibility is to ask a good deal of you. This is not meant to exhaust you or extend you beyond your bounds, but simply to ask more of you than perhaps maybe you have asked of yourself recently.
It is important that you be willing to experiment with fresh approaches and try new beliefs. I will encourage you to be honest with yourself, raise your personal standards and set higher goals. However, you are the best judge of what is right for you. Nevertheless, the more you are willing to experiment and explore, the greater benefits you will get from coaching.
To get the most value out of each coaching session, it is important that you arrive prepared. It doesn’t have to be time-consuming, but experience shows that if you spend 10-15 minutes preparing, it has a significant impact on our session together.
After each session, you will decide on the actions or goals you want to focus upon. I expect you to keep the commitments you make and will work with you to make sure that you are setting worthwhile, realistic and achievable goals.
If you know that you have a busy week or two ahead, your homework might be as simple as reflecting on a new perspective. If you have more time, you might decide to handle a bigger task. Irrespective, I will hold you accountable and encourage you to do your best.
I may ask you to complete some assessments prior to, or during our coaching together, but I will discuss this with you beforehand.
At our first session, I will go through the contract with you to make sure that you are very clear about the fees payable, issues of confidentiality and how we terminate our coaching partnership if necessary.
We will meet either by telephone, via video chat or face-to-face for about 45-60 minutes as your schedule allows. Face-to-face sessions will be conducted at the venue that suits us both, and this may change as the coaching progresses, depending on the context.
Scheduled coaching sessions ought to be a priority. On the rare occasion when you need to reschedule, please let me know at least 24 hours in advance. Except in the case of an emergency, you will still be charged the full fee for last-minute cancellations or missed sessions.
If between sessions, you cannot wait to share something, you need advice or have a challenge or just want to check something, please feel free to call, Skype or email. Although my day is generally caught up, I would like to provide this extra level of service. Of course, there is no charge for this additional time, but I will structure it to keep these extra calls to a maximum of around 5 to 10 minutes.
Book a free 30 minute (no obligations) discovery call so that you can get a sense for my coaching style, and see if we’re a good fit.
If you have any questions prior to booking, feel free to contact me